Through and Through

Dear Friend, Some days there will be nothing you can do to change what you are going through. At times in this life, we just have to go through it. Yet, remember to be grateful that you are at least going through it, because some didn't make it to the other side. ~Lady V.

Mission Drift

Hey Friend!!

Hello, I know that I have been away for a while now! With everything that has come my way, sometimes I find it hard to stay focused on what's important!! This is what a business would call...mission drift. My advice to you and to myself is to not allow distractions to get in your way this year!! In life any distraction will harm your dreams in the same way that stress will harm a pregnancy; by causing a miscarriage. Distractions will stop your goals from growing because you will be to sidetracked too focus on the needed progression in your life. Instead of focusing on the "mission", you will be immersed in day to day drama, allowing yourself and your mind to wander off into solving problems that have nothing to do with achieving your goals. Please friend you need to take you vitamins, eat your veggies, drink eight 8 oz. glasses of water daily, and keep stress to a minimum!! Don't end up on bed rest with your feet in the air on the brink of losing your child a.k.a. your destiny because you drifted off into chaos!!

~With Love, V

NEW YEARS!!!

Happy New Years!!! Oh yes I do realize that this post is about three days late, but none the less this is still a new year!! I hope that you enjoyed your celebrations and now we are all back on the daily grind. Well I personally am glad that it's now 2012, out with the old and in the new. I am not one who necessarily believes in "new year's resolutions", because most of the time we list all of these ideas for our new year, new me attitude and around February forget them! Personally I believe in setting feasible goals. The main way to accomplish a goal is to; set it,place a time limit, and take mini-steps of action that will help you achieve this goal. So what goals are you setting for yourself and your life? Goals can be as small as beginning to wake up before the sun rises to buying your dream house. If you set goals that you really desire and work towards them, then there's really no stopping. So everyone keep a positive attitude for this new season, and work on you!! That's my main goal, to have a more positive outlook and work on me. Love you, muah!!!!

~Love, Lady V :)

Ready For What's Next

Dear Friend,

I have one question for you...are you ready? Are you prepared mentally for what is about to happen next in your life ? We say that we want change. We say that we desire a transformation in our lives that goes beyond anything from our past. That's what we say. Yet, are you preparing your life for something new ? I was at work the other day, organizing my clientele binder and organizing some product from the back when I realized, this is something we have to do on a daily basis. Within any retail store, you will organize the stock and make way for new product. My question is are you able to organize your own life and make way for the next shipment that's headed your way? You can't desire change, and not be willing to clean up your current mess. There's some tidying that needs to be done, and I'm ready to do it.


~ With Love, Lady

Push Me

Dear Friend,

Hello, how are you? Yes, I know that it has been tough these last few months of the year. With so much to complete before the start of a new year, the pressure is up...and unlike all of the times before it feels like it's up ten times higher, am I right ? Well, that's because it is higher. Imagine change as a bomb exploding. When the bomb explodes, the entire area reaches it's peak overpressure...causing a shockwave to be released, thus whatever structure or person around to feel the "force", behind that impact. In other words, the change that is heading towards you is building pressure in your life, ready to blast everything that once existed, away. Trust me, this is not going to be an easy feat for you to endure, but the newness that will result in it all, will be worth every bit of trouble. Let your pressure push you towards a higher future.

~With Love, Lady

Calm Your Mind

Dear Friend,

How has everything been going for you lately? Are you still spending your days thinking about the next one? I have been reading Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert and in part two she is traveling through India where she stays at an Ashram ( a religious retreat or community) , in order to become a better yogi/human being. On her stay in the Ashram, Elizabeth practices mediation every single day, around 5 a.m. However, she is struggling with one factor...her mind. Yes, in order to properly meditate one would need to remain calm, within and outside of themselves. Unfortunately, she can not stop her mind from wandering and racing throughout her meditation times. We all struggle with our minds on a daily basis. In the bible there is a verse found in Romans 8:7 that states "the sinful mind is hostile to God. It does not submit to God's love, nor can it do so". This I believe to be true. Our minds can be very hostile territories, causing us to fear instead of fly, hide instead of fight. We are the ones who claim to be in control of our thoughts and perceptions however most of the time we are not. Most of the time we allow our own minds to talk us out of amazing possibilities, by speaking doubt to ourselves. We are the ones who sit up all night wandering how life should be, without making any actual moves to change the situation. (Keep in mind, that at 3 a.m., unless there's a serious crisis, the only thing you need to change is your sleeping pattern, jk). So my friend, I have made it my personal goal to gain more control over my own mind. They say that the mind is a terrible thing to waste, and it truly is. Therefore, I will focus on taking everyday one day at a time. The steps you take today, will create your tomorrow, so store up some energy.


~ With Love, Lady

Vulnerable

It's so easy to get in a relationship now. Everyone is looking for that special someone. Honestly, I do believe that people should have someone very important in their lives, who genuinely loves them. Tell me this, what happens when that special someone whom you thought was your best friend, becomes your worst enemy? This month is October, the national awareness month for Domestic Violence. Sadly, this is the reality for a lot of women and even men around the world. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, over 1.3 million partners are involved in domestic assaults, while 85% percent of the victims are women. In the most shocking way they have awaken from a fairytale dream to a living nightmare. Understand that when a relationship becomes unbalanced and unhealthy, it is time to exit out of the door, before the situation escalates into a more dangerous situation. Truly all that glitters is not gold.

I was vulnerable to his touch.

Enticed through the eyes of lust.
Yet, the moment he transformed on me,
Was the moment I lost my vulnerability.

The ability to be sensitive to my own needs.
The hate takes away ones desire to feel.
If I didn’t feel anything, then I would be okay.

In him I thought I could find true love,
But there is nothing more real than the moment your body is thrown in the ring, with no protection, no gloves.

Who wants to leave themselves open,
To the possibility of another scar.
The scars damaged my body as well as my soul.

I learned to shut myself in,
Because I was coming out, but going too far.


I’d given up on myself,
By letting another take full control.

Yes, control equals power,
The sweet nectar that enemies crave.
Powerful enough to dig your grave.
From personal lover, to personal hater.
I left him because I could do better.

Now it’s just me.
And I struggle daily as I try to remember what it feels like to love me.

How can I possibly love anyone else, when I’ve lost the perception on how to love myself?
How can I become one with anyone else if I’m not one with myself?



I was vulnerable to his touch.
Enticed through the eyes of lust.
Yet, the moment he transformed on me,
Was the moment I lost my vulnerability.

My ability to be sensitive and truthful to my own needs.
There’s nothing wrong or selfish about the love of self.
I know thyself, that I might know thee.
Just a few words on Augustine.

Yet, I have transformed once more,
now morphing into the true character of my personality.
I have found strength to touch the wounds that still bleed.

The wisdom to know what balm to use, in order for the bruises to heal.
I have the discernment to realize what’s real.

I am sensual, and I am human.
That’s real.
I am spiritual, and intellectual.
That’s real.

A real man will find it in his heart to love, to heal, and not to harm.
Now that’s real.
Please don’t judge, because I have already done that enough.
There are people who feel what I feel,
And that goes beyond real.


I was vulnerable to his touch.
Enticed through the eyes of lust.
Yet, the moment he transformed on me,
Was the moment I lost my vulnerability.

Time has shown that I must be vulnerable.
Vulnerable enough to remain true to myself,
And never again lose me to someone else.

~With Love, Lady

WIDE AWAKE

Dear Friend,


I was sitting in my room listening to the rain, when my mind clicked!!! WAKE UP!!! Life doesn't wait on anyone. So many days we lay in our beds dreaming about the possibilities yet, never taking the chances to truly seek what could happen if we just....step out!! I woke up today, and I felt a stir in my spirit. Yes, I woke up with that sick and tired feeling that only leads to one thing...change. So no I am not going to wait on life to change itself, I am going to change it!! Here's where my head is right now. I firmly believe that faith without actions is dead. We say we have faith and say we believe that God will do something, yet we don't do anything to prove that belief. What are you doing to prove your faith?

~Lady