Through and Through

Dear Friend, Some days there will be nothing you can do to change what you are going through. At times in this life, we just have to go through it. Yet, remember to be grateful that you are at least going through it, because some didn't make it to the other side. ~Lady V.

Humble Pie...Would You Like A Slice?

Dear Friend,

In every situation, no matter how difficult it may be remain humble. Don't all the temptation to lose your cool, eat you alive. Some people and circumstances can get the best of us at times, but it's our responsibility to...well take a chill pill. There are plenty of haters out there scheming against you and will lie on you in hopes you fall. Please don't give them the pleasure in which they seek. Unfortunately, some people only thrive from the destruction of another's image. Let them speak. If you are remaining true to yourself and those around you then they will not win. Beat them at their own game by turning the other cheek, and revealing them for the monsters they are. Life's too short for all of that drama!!

~Lady V

SNAKES

Dear Friend,

Beware of those sent to harm you. Beware of those who befriend you only to abuse you. Yes, beware of those who hope you lose. Nothing is more heartbreaking than when your so-called friends, become your worse enemies. People change but sometimes jealousy it's the leading factor in their sudden change. Don't let their ignorance deter you from going after what's yours. People will hate, that's just what they do best. Also, I hope you remember to take a look in the mirror and remind yourself not to hate on others as well. Misery loves company, so don't become that miserable person you normally despise. I understand that we all grow, but true friends grow together. True friends support and look out for one another, not envy each other's blessings. With friends like that who needs an enemy? I surely don't want venomous people in my life, that want to make me feel bad because of my success or because I refuse to stop. If you want to envy then take your "friendship" somewhere else...it's time to accept new applications.

~With Love,

Lady V

How Far Are You?

Dear Friend,

How far are you into your problems? I know this sounds very absurd, however I am serious!! We tend to encounter problems or issues in our lives, that cause us to waddle in the mud. Yes, sometimes I really would like to just stop moving and look at my mountains rather than climb them. Honestly, this would be the worse mistake ever!! Do you know of any successful man or woman in history who stopped moving forward because their mountain was in the way ? NOPE!! If you stop, then you lose. Hey a scared man can't lose, but he can't win either. Don't just observe your issues, but move through them. Soldiers don't win battles, but hiding in the trenches...they fight through it.

With Love,

~Lady V

Senseless

Dear Friend,

I am learning the hard way that sometimes you really should tell yourself to sit down. By this I mean, you can't always put your wants, desires, or wishes before others. As nice as it sounds, we always say that we are looking out for the best interests of all the parties involved. However, it's a lie. Mostly, we are just trying to get our way. We believe that we are always right and would rather be told lies than face reality. Truthfully admit to yourself that all of the actions you take aren't in the best interest of anyone other than you. We have learned from a young age, that it's a dog eat dog society thus every man for himself. Am I lying? Rather I want to or not, I have to put my loud mouth schemes on the back burner. Otherwise, I could independently destroy the most important relationships in my life. That's a harsh reality we all have to face one day.

~Lady V

Count It All Joy

Dear Friend,

Life can be a headache sometimes!! According to the National Health Interview Survey, around 75% of Americans experience some amount of stress every two weeks. Basically everyone you know is stressed out! Right now saying, that's life, is not a good enough excuse. We are all adults who understand circumstances occur that aren't always in our best interest. However, we need to learn how to calm down. Everything isn't the end of the world as it seems. I have to tell myself this on a daily basis. Yes, there is cause to stress, but stressing too much can take away any sense of stability or peace you may have. Get a grip on yourself, and learn to breathe.

~With Love, Lady

Mission Drift

Hey Friend!!

Hello, I know that I have been away for a while now! With everything that has come my way, sometimes I find it hard to stay focused on what's important!! This is what a business would call...mission drift. My advice to you and to myself is to not allow distractions to get in your way this year!! In life any distraction will harm your dreams in the same way that stress will harm a pregnancy; by causing a miscarriage. Distractions will stop your goals from growing because you will be to sidetracked too focus on the needed progression in your life. Instead of focusing on the "mission", you will be immersed in day to day drama, allowing yourself and your mind to wander off into solving problems that have nothing to do with achieving your goals. Please friend you need to take you vitamins, eat your veggies, drink eight 8 oz. glasses of water daily, and keep stress to a minimum!! Don't end up on bed rest with your feet in the air on the brink of losing your child a.k.a. your destiny because you drifted off into chaos!!

~With Love, V

NEW YEARS!!!

Happy New Years!!! Oh yes I do realize that this post is about three days late, but none the less this is still a new year!! I hope that you enjoyed your celebrations and now we are all back on the daily grind. Well I personally am glad that it's now 2012, out with the old and in the new. I am not one who necessarily believes in "new year's resolutions", because most of the time we list all of these ideas for our new year, new me attitude and around February forget them! Personally I believe in setting feasible goals. The main way to accomplish a goal is to; set it,place a time limit, and take mini-steps of action that will help you achieve this goal. So what goals are you setting for yourself and your life? Goals can be as small as beginning to wake up before the sun rises to buying your dream house. If you set goals that you really desire and work towards them, then there's really no stopping. So everyone keep a positive attitude for this new season, and work on you!! That's my main goal, to have a more positive outlook and work on me. Love you, muah!!!!

~Love, Lady V :)

Toss It Overboard

Dear Friend,

Now that our year is coming to a close I begin look back I see that there was a beautiful mix of both good and bad. So my friend I would like to know what is it that you are going to leave behind? We carry so much dead-weight around whether it is broken ties, useless relationships, or bad habits; this weight keeps us staggering along our journey. Why walk around with so many anchors holding you in that stifled position. Honey I rather not be stuck at sea, hoping for a miracle to rescue me. I am sending you an S.O.S it's time to toss the weight overboard!!! There is no need for relationships that aren't moving anywhere. Furthermore, there is no need for us to continue habits that only leave our mind and heart shattered. Most importantly, if you do want to move forward, then make sure to travel light. You can't go everywhere holding on to everything and everyone. Please take some time out to consider the things that are most important to you right now, and for all the rest...it's time to toss it!!

~With Love, LadyV

Who Are You Around ?

Dear Friend,

If you are not careful you can let some people drive you absolutely insane. Honestly, these people aren't worth our time or peace of mind, yet we allow their loud obnoxious voices to torment our thoughts. Why? A lot of times it's because these "tormentors" are the ones closest to us. They are the same ones whom we love the most and innocently believe that they do not intend to harm us. Yes, we always want to believe that everyone we know wishes us the best, however they do not.

Therefore, we develop these excuse for how they are as human beings and why they treat us the way they do. Oh my favorite is the classic.."but they have been through so much in life", however believe me friend when I say, that there isn't any excuse for putting up with nonsense. At a certain point I honestly believe that these series of "stupid events", become cases of self-inflicted abuse. Although our "tormentors" are the ones with so much to say, we are their enablers. We consistently place ourselves in their presence with the expectations of them changing. Yet, they never do...they remain the same. Are the people you involve in your life really worth your time ? Rather they be loved ones, friends, coworkers, bosses, or anything that would normally be of importance to you...are they important enough to place your mental peace in jeopardy ?


~With Love,

Lady V

The Grinch Stole....Your Happiness

Dear Friend,

Oh my it has been a while since the last time I wrote you a letter. With the holiday season finally here, it has been nothing but busy for me. Normally one would think that people would be a little more happy this time of year, but that's not the case. I have seen more anger this time of year than all of the rest. It's really a sad shame and waste of time. Forget the Grinch Stole Christmas cartoon favorite this year, somehow the Grinch stole your happiness. Well, I really need for you to go and get it back!! In the words of Elizabeth Gilbert, "Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it". Well, I may not be traveling right now to find that peace or happiness we all search for, but I can look within myself, and find reason to be happy. Honestly, there is something you can be grateful for, despite any circumstance.

With Love,

Lady V.

Push Me

Dear Friend,

Hello, how are you? Yes, I know that it has been tough these last few months of the year. With so much to complete before the start of a new year, the pressure is up...and unlike all of the times before it feels like it's up ten times higher, am I right ? Well, that's because it is higher. Imagine change as a bomb exploding. When the bomb explodes, the entire area reaches it's peak overpressure...causing a shockwave to be released, thus whatever structure or person around to feel the "force", behind that impact. In other words, the change that is heading towards you is building pressure in your life, ready to blast everything that once existed, away. Trust me, this is not going to be an easy feat for you to endure, but the newness that will result in it all, will be worth every bit of trouble. Let your pressure push you towards a higher future.

~With Love, Lady

Calm Your Mind

Dear Friend,

How has everything been going for you lately? Are you still spending your days thinking about the next one? I have been reading Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert and in part two she is traveling through India where she stays at an Ashram ( a religious retreat or community) , in order to become a better yogi/human being. On her stay in the Ashram, Elizabeth practices mediation every single day, around 5 a.m. However, she is struggling with one factor...her mind. Yes, in order to properly meditate one would need to remain calm, within and outside of themselves. Unfortunately, she can not stop her mind from wandering and racing throughout her meditation times. We all struggle with our minds on a daily basis. In the bible there is a verse found in Romans 8:7 that states "the sinful mind is hostile to God. It does not submit to God's love, nor can it do so". This I believe to be true. Our minds can be very hostile territories, causing us to fear instead of fly, hide instead of fight. We are the ones who claim to be in control of our thoughts and perceptions however most of the time we are not. Most of the time we allow our own minds to talk us out of amazing possibilities, by speaking doubt to ourselves. We are the ones who sit up all night wandering how life should be, without making any actual moves to change the situation. (Keep in mind, that at 3 a.m., unless there's a serious crisis, the only thing you need to change is your sleeping pattern, jk). So my friend, I have made it my personal goal to gain more control over my own mind. They say that the mind is a terrible thing to waste, and it truly is. Therefore, I will focus on taking everyday one day at a time. The steps you take today, will create your tomorrow, so store up some energy.


~ With Love, Lady

It's Crowded In Here

Dear Friend,

How have you been lately? I found a quote that I really accepted as profound. Steve Jobs ( God bless his family), once stated, "Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice". On numerous occasions we don't follow our heart because we are too busy listening to the partial opinion of others. You live and you learn. Too many times you will doubt yourself and what you are truly capable of because of another voice that supersedes your own. If you don't go see for yourself then how will you ever know, what could have been?

I'm just saying.....

~ Love Lady, Muah!!!

Vulnerable

It's so easy to get in a relationship now. Everyone is looking for that special someone. Honestly, I do believe that people should have someone very important in their lives, who genuinely loves them. Tell me this, what happens when that special someone whom you thought was your best friend, becomes your worst enemy? This month is October, the national awareness month for Domestic Violence. Sadly, this is the reality for a lot of women and even men around the world. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, over 1.3 million partners are involved in domestic assaults, while 85% percent of the victims are women. In the most shocking way they have awaken from a fairytale dream to a living nightmare. Understand that when a relationship becomes unbalanced and unhealthy, it is time to exit out of the door, before the situation escalates into a more dangerous situation. Truly all that glitters is not gold.

I was vulnerable to his touch.

Enticed through the eyes of lust.
Yet, the moment he transformed on me,
Was the moment I lost my vulnerability.

The ability to be sensitive to my own needs.
The hate takes away ones desire to feel.
If I didn’t feel anything, then I would be okay.

In him I thought I could find true love,
But there is nothing more real than the moment your body is thrown in the ring, with no protection, no gloves.

Who wants to leave themselves open,
To the possibility of another scar.
The scars damaged my body as well as my soul.

I learned to shut myself in,
Because I was coming out, but going too far.


I’d given up on myself,
By letting another take full control.

Yes, control equals power,
The sweet nectar that enemies crave.
Powerful enough to dig your grave.
From personal lover, to personal hater.
I left him because I could do better.

Now it’s just me.
And I struggle daily as I try to remember what it feels like to love me.

How can I possibly love anyone else, when I’ve lost the perception on how to love myself?
How can I become one with anyone else if I’m not one with myself?



I was vulnerable to his touch.
Enticed through the eyes of lust.
Yet, the moment he transformed on me,
Was the moment I lost my vulnerability.

My ability to be sensitive and truthful to my own needs.
There’s nothing wrong or selfish about the love of self.
I know thyself, that I might know thee.
Just a few words on Augustine.

Yet, I have transformed once more,
now morphing into the true character of my personality.
I have found strength to touch the wounds that still bleed.

The wisdom to know what balm to use, in order for the bruises to heal.
I have the discernment to realize what’s real.

I am sensual, and I am human.
That’s real.
I am spiritual, and intellectual.
That’s real.

A real man will find it in his heart to love, to heal, and not to harm.
Now that’s real.
Please don’t judge, because I have already done that enough.
There are people who feel what I feel,
And that goes beyond real.


I was vulnerable to his touch.
Enticed through the eyes of lust.
Yet, the moment he transformed on me,
Was the moment I lost my vulnerability.

Time has shown that I must be vulnerable.
Vulnerable enough to remain true to myself,
And never again lose me to someone else.

~With Love, Lady

WIDE AWAKE

Dear Friend,


I was sitting in my room listening to the rain, when my mind clicked!!! WAKE UP!!! Life doesn't wait on anyone. So many days we lay in our beds dreaming about the possibilities yet, never taking the chances to truly seek what could happen if we just....step out!! I woke up today, and I felt a stir in my spirit. Yes, I woke up with that sick and tired feeling that only leads to one thing...change. So no I am not going to wait on life to change itself, I am going to change it!! Here's where my head is right now. I firmly believe that faith without actions is dead. We say we have faith and say we believe that God will do something, yet we don't do anything to prove that belief. What are you doing to prove your faith?

~Lady