Humble Pie...Would You Like A Slice?

Dear Friend,

In every situation, no matter how difficult it may be remain humble. Don't all the temptation to lose your cool, eat you alive. Some people and circumstances can get the best of us at times, but it's our responsibility to...well take a chill pill. There are plenty of haters out there scheming against you and will lie on you in hopes you fall. Please don't give them the pleasure in which they seek. Unfortunately, some people only thrive from the destruction of another's image. Let them speak. If you are remaining true to yourself and those around you then they will not win. Beat them at their own game by turning the other cheek, and revealing them for the monsters they are. Life's too short for all of that drama!!

~Lady V

Mission Drift

Hey Friend!!

Hello, I know that I have been away for a while now! With everything that has come my way, sometimes I find it hard to stay focused on what's important!! This is what a business would call...mission drift. My advice to you and to myself is to not allow distractions to get in your way this year!! In life any distraction will harm your dreams in the same way that stress will harm a pregnancy; by causing a miscarriage. Distractions will stop your goals from growing because you will be to sidetracked too focus on the needed progression in your life. Instead of focusing on the "mission", you will be immersed in day to day drama, allowing yourself and your mind to wander off into solving problems that have nothing to do with achieving your goals. Please friend you need to take you vitamins, eat your veggies, drink eight 8 oz. glasses of water daily, and keep stress to a minimum!! Don't end up on bed rest with your feet in the air on the brink of losing your child a.k.a. your destiny because you drifted off into chaos!!

~With Love, V

Who Are You Around ?

Dear Friend,

If you are not careful you can let some people drive you absolutely insane. Honestly, these people aren't worth our time or peace of mind, yet we allow their loud obnoxious voices to torment our thoughts. Why? A lot of times it's because these "tormentors" are the ones closest to us. They are the same ones whom we love the most and innocently believe that they do not intend to harm us. Yes, we always want to believe that everyone we know wishes us the best, however they do not.

Therefore, we develop these excuse for how they are as human beings and why they treat us the way they do. Oh my favorite is the classic.."but they have been through so much in life", however believe me friend when I say, that there isn't any excuse for putting up with nonsense. At a certain point I honestly believe that these series of "stupid events", become cases of self-inflicted abuse. Although our "tormentors" are the ones with so much to say, we are their enablers. We consistently place ourselves in their presence with the expectations of them changing. Yet, they never do...they remain the same. Are the people you involve in your life really worth your time ? Rather they be loved ones, friends, coworkers, bosses, or anything that would normally be of importance to you...are they important enough to place your mental peace in jeopardy ?


~With Love,

Lady V

The Grinch Stole....Your Happiness

Dear Friend,

Oh my it has been a while since the last time I wrote you a letter. With the holiday season finally here, it has been nothing but busy for me. Normally one would think that people would be a little more happy this time of year, but that's not the case. I have seen more anger this time of year than all of the rest. It's really a sad shame and waste of time. Forget the Grinch Stole Christmas cartoon favorite this year, somehow the Grinch stole your happiness. Well, I really need for you to go and get it back!! In the words of Elizabeth Gilbert, "Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it". Well, I may not be traveling right now to find that peace or happiness we all search for, but I can look within myself, and find reason to be happy. Honestly, there is something you can be grateful for, despite any circumstance.

With Love,

Lady V.

Calm Your Mind

Dear Friend,

How has everything been going for you lately? Are you still spending your days thinking about the next one? I have been reading Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert and in part two she is traveling through India where she stays at an Ashram ( a religious retreat or community) , in order to become a better yogi/human being. On her stay in the Ashram, Elizabeth practices mediation every single day, around 5 a.m. However, she is struggling with one factor...her mind. Yes, in order to properly meditate one would need to remain calm, within and outside of themselves. Unfortunately, she can not stop her mind from wandering and racing throughout her meditation times. We all struggle with our minds on a daily basis. In the bible there is a verse found in Romans 8:7 that states "the sinful mind is hostile to God. It does not submit to God's love, nor can it do so". This I believe to be true. Our minds can be very hostile territories, causing us to fear instead of fly, hide instead of fight. We are the ones who claim to be in control of our thoughts and perceptions however most of the time we are not. Most of the time we allow our own minds to talk us out of amazing possibilities, by speaking doubt to ourselves. We are the ones who sit up all night wandering how life should be, without making any actual moves to change the situation. (Keep in mind, that at 3 a.m., unless there's a serious crisis, the only thing you need to change is your sleeping pattern, jk). So my friend, I have made it my personal goal to gain more control over my own mind. They say that the mind is a terrible thing to waste, and it truly is. Therefore, I will focus on taking everyday one day at a time. The steps you take today, will create your tomorrow, so store up some energy.


~ With Love, Lady

Nonsense

Hello Friend,

Hello, how are you? I have a question for you. Well being that I am young I have a lot of questions. Today I would like to know why do people make it hard for others to survive in a world that rarely wants to see you at your best? Maybe, I am just being super sensitive, but my question remains. Times are already hard, yet there are those constant naysayers that just have to inject their poison into everyone. These people make it almost impossible to get through the day. I am not saying that all hope is lost, because I rather be alive than dead. What I am saying is how does one overcome the doubters? My personal answer is to simply not listen. Yes, we have to go about our day with our ears and eyes open, but sometimes you have to close your heart to anything and everything that isn't good for your spirit. There are people that want to see you upset. They would respect you more if they could see the hell you have been through written on your face. However, I don't need you to know that I have been to hell and back. No, I don't need you to feel as if I have had personal meetings with the devil himself when you look at me. When you look at me I want you too see that I overcame every obstacle that was placed in my way and that I am still overcoming. No matter what we still have to be grateful for our quiet Hell because for someone else it could actually be Heaven. Yes, friend there are some things about life that I will never understand, but I do understand that those people who seek to hurt those around them are the ones who need the most love. Even when they are making it nearly impossible.

With love,

~Lady

Definition of Who

Why should I define myself for you?
That will never benefit me, but will make it easier for you.
Easier for you to place my life in a category.
Categorizing me with all of your other ladies.
But baby my personal style is weaved in my own originality.
So how can I ever find you worthy of my mind and body,
when you're so busy putting me on a shelf.
No honey, this is not barbie.
You refuse to learn or appreciate me for my inner qualities.
I find you blind to the meaning of true beauty.

You will only pay attention to the outside, saying that I'm sexy labeling my body a dime.
You can stimulate my body with your tongue all night , but are you willing to stimulate my intellect with words of knowledge that will have me yearning to learn more in this lifetime.

Why should I define myself for you?
That will never benefit me, but will make it easier for you.


You strive so hard to define me, categorize me, instead of taking the time to get to know me.
How will you ever obtain anything with me?
I find that to be mundane,
a waste of both of our time.
What I am saying is more than just another rhyme,
for I seek what's real and not a lie.

Go sit in the same box you tried to use to trap me.
Either I am too hood or too classy.
So I have a suggestion for you,
go about your business and find the woman that was tailor made just for you.
Because tailoring me to fit your description just will not do.


Why should I define me for you?
That will never benefit me, but just make it easier for you.

It's so easy to get caught up in other peoples' thoughts about you. Yet, since when does the opinion of others define your personality? That is absurd!!! I have been dumped with all kinds of reactions from people when they meet me or get to know me. Honestly, all of it means nothing. My goal in life right now is to define myself. To wake up each day and embrace every single part of me inside and out!!! No I am not perfect, nor do I want to be. Yes, I will fail but that's the best way to learn. No, I'm not always sociable, and can be very awkward in social situations, but I love it!!That's me!!! I like what I like, and I don't care what people think. Yes, at times you have to go get a personal opinion, but you are still the one making the decision. You have to live with you, so work on that,lol!!! Embrace what makes you different and as an old manager use to tell me....distinctive. Muah!!!

~LadyVaness

Self-Discovery

Welcome,

Hello, how are you? This is the question that we all ask our acquaintances, when writing to them or speaking to them. However, do you ever stop to ask yourself this question? Sometimes you are the one person you forget about in the chaos that is called life. However, I have made a declaration to ask myself this question more often (as in everyday,lol)!!! Why not? Why forget about the one person you need just to make it through the day....yourself? At the end of it all, you can't runaway from yourself.

~LadyVaness